If you’ve chosen to read this, then I know this is a topic you find concerning. And, as a parent, you are concerned with the types of peer pressure your child may encounter as they mature. At the end of this blog, I’ve linked a quiz that will allow you to interact with your child and then discuss the results.
Peer pressure is simply defined as the social influence over an individual. Young people are more susceptible to the influence of others, especially during their teenage years. This is because their brain is still developing and trying to figure out where they fit within society. You’ve been there. You remember the situations you were in growing up. I’m sure like me, you probably made some bad choices due to the influence of your peers. But, did you know peer pressure can be positive too? Maybe we shouldn’t be so quick to jump to all the negatives and think of times in our life where we’ve encountered positive peer pressure.
Here are some examples.
Support others in avoiding alcohol, drugs, and smoking.
Work hard and be nice daily.
Exercise! Group fitness is so successful for this positive peer pressure.
Each of the above listed items are examples of positive peer pressure. By surrounding ourselves with positive people that encourage us and hold us accountable, we all become better. In a learning situation, which technically this is, we call it positive interdependence. That’s a fancy term for saying what Alexandre Dumas published in his book, The Three Musketeers, in 1844, “Unus pro omnibus, omnes pro uno”. That’s Latin for, “One for all, and all for one.” It’s a wonderful quote; one of the best I know. When we think like this, we strive to be better and help our peers become better.
In closing, encourage your kids to be promoters of positive peer pressure. And, model this behavior for them. After all, you are the first and best teacher. If you want to quiz your child on how they will respond to peer pressure, click here and then discuss the results with them.